Most of the time, when asexuals talk about sex, we’re engaged in the task of pointing out why it’s overrated, and why sexual people are wrong to dismiss our perspectives as being the result of several d-words: delusion, denial, disorder, disability, disease, dysfunction, or damage done by some kind of (apparently dis-remembered) abuse. Sometimes we [...]
Archive for January, 2009
Doing Sex – Tips for the Adventurous Asexual
Posted: January 30, 2009 in Relationships, Sexual Exploration9
Dating Site Review: OKCupid
Posted: January 23, 2009 in Online dating, RomanceTags: asexual, asexuality, dating, dating sites, OKcupid, online dating, Relationships, romance
As we all know, asexuals are scarce. It’s hard to meet other asexuals in real life. Even if by chance we do meet up with another one, it’s not like there’s any way to pick an asexual out of a crowd just by their appearance, and the topic of asexuality may not be likely to [...]
What We Search For
Posted: January 19, 2009 in Asexual Visibility, Misunderstandings, Pathologization of Asexuality/Low Sex Drive, Weird Assumptions that People MakeTags: asexual, asexuality, search engine terms
And by “we,” I mean my readers. Since I started blogging, I have been consistently amused by the search engine terms that people use to find this blog. I thought I would share some of the standouts with you all, so you can share in my amusement. This past week, someone wanted to know, “are [...]
Asexual Character Spotlight: Data
Posted: January 14, 2009 in Asexual CharactersTags: asexual, Asexual Characters, asexuality, data, emotions, intimacy, sex, sexual attraction, star trek
So, I’m a nerd. And I’ve been rewatching Star Trek TNG lately because the gf hasn’t seen it yet, which is just not acceptable for someone as space-nerdy as her. She seems to like it, while I am rediscovering my love for my favorite asexual character. When I still browsed AVEN a lot, I saw [...]
Not-Rape, and Obliviousness as a Potential Protection
Posted: January 9, 2009 in FeminismTags: asexual, asexuality, coercion, Feminism, molestation, non-consensual, not rape, obliviousness, rape, sexual abuse, sexual violence, statutory rape, violence against women, women's issues
A little while ago, someone linked me to this excellent essay about Not-Rape. It’s a fairly long, possibly triggering essay, and I don’t suppose all of my readers will be interested in reading through the whole thing (although I strongly encourage you all to do so, when you get the time), so I will summarize [...]
Children of Denial
Posted: January 4, 2009 in Gender, GLBT/Queer issues, TransgenderTags: asexual, asexuality, coming out, denial, gay, gender identity, lesbian, mother, mtf, parents, queer, sexual orientation, transgender, transition, transsexual
A few days ago, I had the nerve-wracking experience of having a lengthy discussion with my MtF girlfriend’s mother about her transition. The whole thing started because Cupcake has been on hormones for several months, and is going to start presenting as female full time in about a week, but her mother has been expressing [...]
